My desire secrets

There are a few basic truths which you should be aware of if you want a successful relationship. Having this knowledge will enable you to transform a mediocre relationship into something deeply satisfying. Although these truths are founded in common-sense, it's as though they've been forever locked away in a vault for only the lucky few to access. It's time to share these secrets with everyone.

The first secret is to give up living in hopeful fantasy and to see and accept your partner for who they really are. If this new clarity means that you discover some intolerable or unacceptable behaviors or attitudes on their part, then don't waste anyone's time and just walk away. Knowing the truth gives you the power to take good care of yourself. You'll be avoiding a whole lot of misery in this way.

You also need to know that your partner fully sees and accepts you as you are. There's no point in presenting a "cleaned up" version of yourself to them because then the person that they're loving isn't the real you. You can never feel truly loved if you're showing them an inauthentic self. If you've shown your true self to your partner and they can't accept it, again, walk away. Nothing's going to change.

The second secret in successful romance is not to make your partner responsible for giving your life meaning. Both people should be complete beings; each with their own life, friends and attitudes. You should complement each-other rather than complete each-other. Each person needs to bring something of value to the table, and you must remain separate and distinct individuals while developing your connection.

Becoming overly-enmeshed and giving up your identity in a relationship is a sure way of creating unhappiness. Your partner chose you for your unique qualities. Losing them would mean depriving your partner of what they liked about you in the first place. It won't make you happy to give up important parts of yourself and it will only make you that much less attractive to your partner.

The third secret of a successful relationship is mutual respect. There is no place in a healthy interaction for contempt, shaming or being dismissive toward one-another. As soon as any of these attitudes become part of the relationship, it's doomed. Both individuals must value their partner's needs, feelings, thoughts and dreams.

The fourth secret of success is trust. There can be no real intimacy without profound trust. This trust should be based, however, on both people demonstrating to each-other through their actions that they are trust-worthy. When you have seen that your partner means what they say and keeps their promises, and when they've seen the same in you, real trust can take place. This makes it possible for both of you to be vulnerable and yet safe.

The fifth secret of a good relationship is not to expect the other person to heal your emotional wounds. This means that as wonderful as love is, it isn't the cure for what ails you. It's your responsibility to work on whatever emotional baggage you might be carrying from your childhood or from previous relationships, as opposed to burdening your partner with this expectation.

Finally, the biggest secret of all: make your partner happy and they'll do everything they can to make you happy, too. There is an exception to this, however. Your partner must be emotionally healthy enough to reciprocate your love and attention. If you've been trying your best to make them happy and they aren't doing the same for you, it means that things will always be one-sided and that it's time to leave.

A successful romance is mainly a matter of common sense. Be realistic with your partner; stay true to yourselves; maintain your separate identities; be kind and generous and don't burden each-other with inappropriate expectations. When you come together as conscious, responsible adults with lots of love to give, you can't help but create a meaningful and satisfying union.

I'm willing to go out on a limb here and say that there isn't a person on the planet that doesn't have a desire of some kind. I'll even go out on another limb and state that every person on the planet has more than one desire at a time. Whether it's wanting more money, a new home, a relationship, more sleep, more love in the world or even a desire to laugh more in life, it's all about wanting something we don't have at the moment we are wanting it. Depending on any one person's circumstance, each desire can feel just as unattainable and create a feeling of frustration and/or hopelessness.

Here's the truth about desires; we will always have unfulfilled desires and it's because of that, you will continue to grow and expand in your life. Whenever you reach one place or fulfill one desire, you will then automatically find yourself moving to the next place with the next desire. There is nothing wrong with this. This is human nature and to find yourself in a place of having desires and having them fulfilled is exhilarating. It can almost become a game and there are a few rules, that when followed accordingly, can create the feeling of winning even before your desire has manifested.

Rule #1: When you're in a place with unfulfilled desires remember to not feel a sense of fear, anxiety, frustration or even impatience. Did I just hear a, "Yeah, right," with a tone of sarcasm in there? That's fine. I know how you feel. I've been there myself only to realize once I started playing by the Universe's rules and not my own, everything changed for me. You see it's those exact emotions that keep your desires from being fulfilled because you're not in a receiving place. It's not your job to figure out all the ways to get your desires fulfilled. It is your job to be very clear in asking for what you want and to trust with all your heart everything will come to you at the perfect time. When you get the urge to take an action toward fulfilling your desire that feels wonderful to you, then do so. But only if it feels right. Do not push action on yourself just because you think you should be doing something. That will only bring you more frustration and you won't have any fun in the process.

Rule #2: Focus on what is working in your life and feeling more of your true essence more often. Ask yourself anytime you're full of doubt and fear, "What is working?" Allow yourself to live on the outside, what really exists on the inside of your soul with your values, integrity and needs. Match your inside to your outside world so they become one and the same. Focus on what's true for you without the concern of what others may think. When you do these things you are becoming a vibrational match to everything that is rightfully yours just waiting to show up in your life which can ultimately feel like a miracle, fulfilling your desires in ways greater than you ever imagined possible.

Rule #3: Be aware of your thoughts. When you watch what pops up in your mind throughout the day about your desires you will begin to notice if you've got more negative chatter going on or more positive chatter. Or as I call it, your Gremlin or your Genie. Once there is an awareness of your thoughts your world can begin to change. In a heartbeat, you can change your thought and create it to be anything that makes you feel good. You can even take yourself on a mini vacation. Use your imagination to create a scene that you're in where you feel a sense of joy, fun, peace or calmness. Whatever you need at the time. Go there alone, so you don't have to pay attention to how anyone else is feeling or respond to what he or she may say. This is strictly for you and your well-being. You only need to go there for a very short time, just create change in your thought pattern and raise your vibration enough so you become aligned with what you're desiring by feeling good. When you feel a shift leave the scene and go about your day. You can do this many times throughout the day to create the shift you're wanting. I promise you, the more you do this, the less your Gremlin will show up, the better you'll feel and the quicker your desires get fulfilled.

Rule # 4: Although this rule is simple it tends to be the hardest to grasp at a cellular, all knowing level. Trust. Trust that all your desires have been heard and are in the process of being fulfilled. When your thoughts, feelings, words and actions are in alignment, your unfulfilled desires will be fulfilled faster than you can create a new desire.

Rule #5: This rule may be the most important rule of all. Live in gratitude for all that you have in life. No matter what is going on there is always something to be grateful for and the Universe responds so graciously to gratitude when it is authentic and heartfelt. I'm going to suggest that you create a gratitude journal and write in it everyday. It only takes a couple of minutes to come up with a few things to be grateful for each day and when you do this you'll open yourself up to receiving more and more things to thank the Universe for.

So embrace your unfulfilled desires and be willing, for the next 30 days, to play by these five rules and see what shows up differently for you. You may find certain desires getting fulfilled or maybe you'll feel lighter about life in general. Either way, if you don't give it a whirl you'll never know what could have been.

The starting point of all wealth creation is desire. That is having something to wake up for in the morning, something that keeps you awake in the day and something in your life that makes you stay hungry. Nature always wraps up in strong desires that something which knows nothing like impossible and accepts no such thing as thing as failure. Therefore in your quest for wealth creation, you first need to desire wealth before you create wealth. If you do not desire it you cannot have it.

Wishing is not the same thing as desiring. Your wish for wealth is not the same thing as your desire for wealth. They are quite different. When you desire wealth, you are willing to burn all bridges in your quest for wealth creation and cut off all sources of retreat. Wishing will never bring you wealth. Rather it is a burning desire that becomes an obsession which makes planning for the ways to acquire wealth possible and backed by persistence that makes wealth creation realizable. All those who have accumulated great wealth did some amount of day-dreaming, hoping, wishing, desiring and finally planning before they acquire their wealth. Note however that your desire for wealth alone will never bring you wealth. You need to back it up with faith and a belief that you can acquire it.

To create wealth in abundant quantity, you need to desire to be wealthy and to have it. It is your desires for wealth that will enable you identify the means of acquiring it. This world is filled with opportunities in wealth creation. The opportunities will not find you. Rather, you are the one to find the opportunities. Unless you desire wealth however, you cannot recognize the opportunities when they present themselves. It is only desire that can perform the impossible, even in wealth creation.

All men of abundant wealth in the world today are men of very, very strong desires for wealth. They did not just wish for wealth. They desire it and it became an obsession to them and they burnt all bridges of retreat in their quest to acquire their wealth. They never thought about failure, only success. And succeed they did. Think of the Bill Gates, the Donald Trumps, the Jerry Yangs, the Michael Dells, the Rockefellers etc.